10 Books about Relationships
To begin with, it should be mentioned that a question of a relationship between a man and a woman is not as easy as it may seem from the first sight. We all live in a busy world full of daily communications with friends, colleagues, loved ones, and it requires a lot of inner force and energy. There are so many questions we should ask to ourselves and try to find the answer. Is it possible to find happiness? How can we build relationships with our beloved ones? Are we able to strengthen and maintain relationships with a partner? One of the ways to help yourself overcome problems in relationships is reading. Today, there are so many manuals and literature materials that help us solve our problems and give good pieces of advice. They will definitely help you to manage the situation. Here is the selection of bestsellers from recognized experts on the subject of self-development and relationships.
1. The Science of Positivity: Stop Negative Thought Patterns by Changing Your Brain Chemistry
Sometimes it's easier to draw it strong. Sometimes, people are not able to stay positive while solving various kinds of problems. They are unable to transcend this natural negativity. Of course, in such cases as this, it is not an easy task trying to live with such a person and building a family union together with him/her. But fortunately there appear an interesting book called The Science of Positivity. It will teach you how cynical thought habits are formed, and how you can rewire yourself to go beyond them. Neurochemical expert Loretta Graziano Breuning, PhD, empowers you to transcend negativity by creating new thought habits. You'll learn simple, practical actions you can take to shift your thinking to a feeling of optimism. You can even learn how to replace negative thought patterns with realistic and optimistic thoughts. You have to practice for a few minutes per day. And just in a few weeks, you will build new pathways and see the world in a different way. Frustration sometimes may find its way into our soul, but nevertheless it is better to learn how to manage the situation in a positive way and how to overcome frustration. You will see, that shortly after you had neglected frustration and anxiety, all these destructive feelings will disappear and you will feel inner harmony again.
2. The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity
Iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity. If there appeared an affair, it can destroy the happiness of every couple. Of course, every man and every woman, as a unique member of society, makes his/her own decision notwithstanding the fact, what this concrete society moral rules are. We come to this decision according to our upbringing, our moral principles and traditions of our family. We should possess inner forces in order to manage such a situation. And, of course, even love affairs are different. So, firstly, there are various conclusions we can make of such situations. And every person has to make the decision for him/herself. Secondly, there are also a number of questions we all should answer. What are the reasons for love affairs? Who is to blame for them? What does a word "infidelity" mean? What actually should be done as a precautionary measure against betrayals? Esther Perel describes real-life stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, the author has been travelling around the world and working with hundreds of couples who faced a problem of adultery. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. In case there is a right approach, couples can learn a lot from such an experience, together or apart. It appears so significant to realise what actually the author claims about betrayals. She asserts that affairs have a lot to teach us about modern relationships, about our expectations, desires and intentions. Adultery opens a unique window into our personal and cultural attitude to love and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Esther Perel invites us into an honest, enlightened and entertaining exploration of modern marriage.
3. Wired to Connect: The Surprising Link Between Brain, Science and Strong, Healthy Relationships
It seems very important to mention that a research made by Dr. Amy Banks shows that people cannot reach their full potential unless they are in healthy connection with others. Dr. Amy Banks teaches us how to prepare our brains for healthier relationships and happier, more fulfilling lives. We all experience moments when we feel isolated and alone. Every single one of us has a bent for close relationships. The key to more satisfying relationships dwells in strengthening the neural pathways in our brains that encourage closeness and connection. In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Banks gives us a road map to develop the four distinct neural pathways in the brain that underlie the four most important ingredients for close relationships, which are calmness, acceptance, emotional resonance and energy. Wired to Connect gives you the tools you need to strengthen the parts of your brain that encourage connection and to heal the neural damage that disconnection can cause.
4. Man of Steel and Velvet: A Guide to Masculine Development
Here comes a book which teaches men to be men. It helps a young, single man visualize the man he ought to be in full maturity. It provides a mature, married man with a pattern to be taken into account. These rules will teach a man how to be successful in his roles of a husband and father. This manual is of great value, for in spite of the millions of men who make up our society, there are few successful examples of a man's behaviour which men can follow. Still, there is a need of such examples as men should be mature and wise. It seems quite amazing that sometimes we observe men acting unbefitting their social position. If a man aspires to become a partner worth trusting, then this book is for him! It will show principles and rules he should take into account as someone's future husband and father.
5. Stop the Fight!: An Illustrated Guide for Couples: How to Break Free from the 12 Most Common Arguments and Build a Relationship That Lasts
As it comes clear from the title, this is an illustrated guide for couples and it gives 12 arguments that will help everyone to build a relationship that lasts! Conflict within relationships is complex and challenging to overcome. In her 20 years of working with couples, clinical psychologist Michelle Brody found a way to make change simpler. She has a unique formula and this is a visual expression. In her book, Michelle Brody presents some clear illustrations that will help you literally see what hinder your relationship. Stop quarreling! They are of no use! You should remember, that a quarrel never leads to a compromise! And it is so important to talk to each other and to listen and understand! So, keep calm, read this interesting book and then start to discuss everything calmly with your man without shouting! You should come to a common decision!
6. The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want
For the first time ever, there is a science-based answer to the age-old question: What do women expect from men? The answer will be given by a world-renowned relationship expert John Gottman. Based on 40 years of research, The Man’s Guide to Women unlocks the mystery of how to attract, satisfy and succeed with a woman for a lifetime. It discusses the most significant features of every successful relationship. It shows the importance of talks and discussions, harmony and love, respect and mutual understanding.
7. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex
Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realize how different they can be in their communication styles, their emotional needs and their modes of behavior. All they have to do is to respect and accept the differences of their partners. This book offers the secrets of communicating without conflicts, allowing couples to give intimacy every chance to grow.
8. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy and Commitment
In this significant book, Steve Harvey tries to help every woman understand her life partner. In audition to good examples and practical pieces of advice, which can be used in real everyday life, Steve creates his book with a good sense of humour. Here, every woman will find something funny for herself. But behind the laughter is his sincere desire to help every woman understand her man.
9. Why Men Lie & Women Cry
This book discusses a femonemon of conversation and its role in every relationship. It observes such interesting questions to which no answer is fit. For example, what is a lie? How can we see the lie? When is it possible to tell lies? How can we react to the lie if we see that our partner is insincere with us? Why do men usually tell lies? And, of course, there are other questions, which always occur in communication. For instance, why do men think they have to be right about everything? Why do women cry to get all the things done in their own way? So, in order to make your talks more effective, you should become familiar with the book!
10. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
Falling in love is easy. Staying in love — that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts and just plain boredom of everyday life? In the book, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach will help you and your partner experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy. The 5 Love Languages is as practical as it is insightful. Updated to reflect the complexities of relationships today, this new edition reveals intrinsic truths and applies relevant, actionable wisdom in ways that work.
Relationships between a man and a woman is always a very interesting and challenging topic to discuss! There may occur various problems while you work on your relations! You have to listen and understand your partner. What is more, you have to take his/her point of view into account. Sometimes, it is quite complicated to admit you were wrong and your beloved person was quite right. You should be always calm and self-confident. You should be able to come to a compromise in every situation. Of course, in order to become such a person, you should become familiar with various manuals which are created in order for women to understand their men's behavior and visa versa. Read, develop and become better!