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So, you’ve matched with a guy and you’ve been talking for a while. You’re getting really comfortable with each other and you feel this is going to be a perfect match! So, how can you take the next step in your relationship? There might still be some questions that require answers before you meet him in person. But before it can happen, you need to figure out what aspects of a relationship are important to you. Eventually, you’ll have to have “the talk”. Only when you overcome the fear of intimate questions, will you be able to understand whether this person can be more than a friend. Only complete sincerity can lead to a committed relationship. However, asking the right questions can be difficult. Let’s discuss different conversations that help to develop a connection.

Tell me about your family.

First of all, ask him about his family. Learn about whether he has any brothers or sisters. This is one of the most important aspects of a person's life. If you get to know his family, details about his upbringing will become clear. This can help you to realise if he is your match or not. It is possible for someone to be a good match despite major differences in past experiences and upbringing. But, as a rule, close relationships are formed by similar pasts. You are used to the same things. You both have the same values; this will help contribute to a lasting relationship. All your doubts will disappear and you will find security in knowing that this man will bring you and your family comfort and happiness!

What are your interests?

Not only can conversation about relatives and upbringing unite two people; think about how nice it would be to spend your free time together! You could go for a walk, watch a movie lying on a cosy sofa together, or go to a live rock concert. And you can always simply just cook your favorite food together. Every person has his/her interests which evoke harmony and the integrity of connection. For example, some people like sewing while others find it hard to sit still for long periods of time. Some other people might enjoy conquering mountain tops, going surfing in Australia or parachuting, while this scares you! Of course, it’s important to ask your man about his interests and favorite pastimes. This will help you to figure out whether he is an extrovert or introvert, if he is a sporty person or a homebody. And you will see at once whether you are compatible or not.

What goals are important to you?

A person's aims and goals are very important. What kind of life does he want to lead? What are his future plans? We are all different and for some people, their work and career are at the top of that list. For others, these are family and relationships. For some people, an education is not important while others pursue a PhD. Our goals tell the world what’s important to us during this life. You do not know what his goals are yet. You met him online and you have a lot of discovering to do. Where will he place importance and what will he determine to be unworthy of his time? It is possible that his life goals do not align with yours. If he is honest, all your future relations and communication will become quite clear to you. Perhaps, you won't be overly excited about his ideas, but remember that ultimatums are not the answer. Everything should be discussed. Try to talk to him calmly and express your attitude towards his words. If he shares your feelings, he will understand your point of view and you will come to the solution together. However, if he only appreciates his opinion, you might need to reconsider. But if his goals and future plans coincide with yours, then you might be two halves of the same whole!

What will your family be like?

We all imagine a family in a different way. True, society does project a framework for the modern family, but still all families differ because of changes in upbringing, education and habits. What does the word "family" mean to him? What does he imagine his family to be like? You plan to become a part of his family, that is why these questions are important. Of course, if you do form a family, you will have the right to bring your own ideas about family rules and customs. But what if he claims his word is law? What if he thinks that it is not necessary to share everything with his wife? Will you be able to be with a person like that? These questions should be asked and answered at the beginning of the relationship. You must be honest both with him and yourself. Then you will avoid disappointment, misunderstanding or vain hopes. You should be an open book to each other.

What does a relationship mean to you?

Perhaps, the answers to all the previous questions were enough. You see yourself together with your perfect partner. You seem to have a lot in common. But, what is more, it is important to figure out how he sees his relationship with you. All men are different. For example, some of them are hopeless romantics. There are those who wake up every day, grateful to be with you. Who write their partner poems and song. However, there are men who cannot do all that. They are not romantics at all. They cannot court, buy you flowers or ask you out for a meal. You will never draw a compliment or a smile from them. Nevertheless, they are trustworthy life partners. You should come to understand what you expect from a relationship with a man, whether you desire romance or can easily do without it. You should tell him how you believe a relationship should be. Perhaps, your wishes are the same.

What will be your family like in 10 years?

You should ask this question at the very end. It will tie all the other questions together. He will describe his family in a few words and you will clearly see whether he was honest with you or not. You will be able to read him like a book and see whether he is your perfect match.

If you meet online and you get butterflies every time he writes to you, then it’s time to take things to the next step. If you want to feel an authentic connection, you should be absolutely open with each other. Before meeting in real life, all the intimate online dating questions should already be asked in order for you to know whether he is your perfect match or not. No question should be left unanswered. If he expresses interest and asks you all these questions and answers your questions honestly, it is the sign that his attitude towards you is quite serious. And it is important that you are open with him in return. Once the serious talk is had, everything will become clear! You should learn about both his strong and weak points. If his answers are the same as yours, then he might be your perfect match! But even if your answers did not line up perfectly, it is always better to discuss them. The most important thing in every relationship is to talk and to listen, and there will come understanding, tenderness and love!

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